Growing up in public schools in the 80s and 90s, I heard a lot of this (maybe from hippie teachers? Maybe pop culture TV shows? Not positive which adults said these things, I just know they were programmed into my head):
‘Work hard and you will achieve your goals.’
‘You can do anything you set your mind to.’
Hogwash. But not in a bad way.
I just wish adults would have been more honest, realistic. I wish someone would have said, ‘Hey, you might work hard towards your dreams, and those dreams may not come true. And guess what? That is okay. You can still live a happy life, and have wonderful relationships, and experience magical things.’
Or, ‘Hey, life can really suck sometimes, and you may experience quit a bit of pain. But guess what? That is okay.’
Or, ‘You may not achieve your dreams, and you may watch one of your peers do immoral things and achieve the things you wanted most, while you don’t sleep your way to the top, and you end up in more of a mediocre situation. And that, too, is okay. You can still be happy.’
In one of my all time fave movies, “The Princess Bride,” The Man in Black (AKA Westley) says to Princess Buttercup, ‘Life is pain, Heiness Anyone who says differently is selling something.’ When I was a kid and saw that movie, I recall thinking, ‘Well, Man in Black (who I only then *suspected* was Westley), that is quit a depressing way to look at the world. You should really be more of a positive thinker. Maybe then you would be a happier person.’
But today, as an adult, I get it. I get what he was saying.
PS. Super-duper-uper weird. When I went to go take a pic of my “Princess Bride” magnets to include in this post (they are on the refrigerator), my husband, who had absolutely no idea what I was doing (he usually doesn’t), just so happened to be in the kitchen, opening a box containing my new popcorn popper that had just arrived from the Amazon (website, not the jungle, in case you were wondering). I heard him say, ‘Cool. Buttercup.’ And I am like, ‘What!?’ (For those of you who don’t get it, watch “The Princess Bride.” And do it soon.)
He was referring to the piece on top of the popcorn popper where one can put butter to melt while the corn is popping. After I looked at him like, ‘How did you know I was just writing a paragraph about Westley and Princess Buttercup?’ He was like, ‘Cool Buttercup. The buttercup on your new popper doubles as a measuring tool for the seeds. That’s awesome.’
No. The telepathic universe is what’s awesome.
- Buttercup no damsel in distress in ‘Princess Bride’ (arabtimesonline.com)
- Princess Bride t-shirt causes in-flight scare (telegraph.co.uk)
- Inconceivable! How ‘The Princess Bride’ almost didn’t get made (marquee.blogs.cnn.com)
- Prepare to die: iconic film quip triggers flight tizz (smh.com.au)
- 10 Reasons Why No One Can Top A “Princess Bride” Wedding (buzzfeed.com)
- Inconceivable! ‘Princess Bride’ T-Shirt Upsets Airline Passengers (hollywood.com)
- A Dream never acheived (shellesbutterflyproject.wordpress.com)
- The Princess Bride (1987) (themoviecrew.wordpress.com)
- I Don’t Understand. (ficklemouthed.wordpress.com)