There are a lot of awesome dudes out there in the blogosphere. (Whatever, red squiggly line. Wikipedia recognizes ‘blogosphere’ as a word. The red squiggly line software should be updated! Like, if I type, ‘supercalifragilisticexpialidocious,’ you should know what that is, and not suggest that I change it to, ‘superciliousness.’ Not even close to the same thing. Actually, that is a lie. I don’t really even know what the definition of ‘superciliousness’ is. Sorry, rant over.)
Anyway, back to the dudes. I once took a writing class in which I wrote a piece — in which I based a male character on my husband. The feedback? That character is not believable as a man. You need to dude him up. ‘Dude him up’ is my phrase, but that is the gist of what they were saying.
I struggled and struggled. What to do? I didn’t want to make him into someone he was not, but I also needed readers to believe he could exist.
Then, I realized something. I was in a class of all women. Every last genitalia on the chairs of that classroom were vaginae.
And I bet they have all dated douche bags.
I should never have told my husband that I wrote him as he was and a room full of women didn’t believe he existed. Yeah. He brings that up every now and then. Whenever he feels the need to brag.
But, in the blogosphere, I have found proof! There are other dudes out there who have awesome relationships with their wives! And treat them like the queens that they are. And laugh with them and worship them! They do exist!
Now, I am not saying things are hunky-dory 24/7. We have our moments. Hell, we even almost got divorced once. And came close a couple of other times. (Those are perhaps some of the moments I needed to include in the writing class, to show believe-ability because hey man, life is ups and downs, laughter and crying, and laughing while crying, or vice versa, or laughing at someone else who is crying, or crying because of someone else who is laughing. At you. Because that happens.)
My point is, he may not always be able to open a jar of pickles (because his fingers hurt from all of the origami), but he would totally save me in the Fire Swamp.
Here are some awesome dude sites I have found. If you have one (an awesome dude site), and I have missed it, just leave your link in the comments!
- What makes a guy attractive? (9dpercent.wordpress.com)
- Tearing Up My Little Corner of Blogosphere For A Whole Year Now! (everyonehasastory.me)
- And Another Thing! (creoleindc.typepad.com)
- How They Became Dudes (thejottersjoint.com)
- You Must Have One to Get Laid! (slimegreen.me)
- Self Realization 6: Dude, I’m a Dude (blackboxcosmeticstn.com)
Oh my gosh! It’s an R.O.U.S.!